In light of a few things, I’ve come across this very relevant issue to all internet denizens: what is the degree of which real life and the “you” in your favorite cyber-hang-out places should mix? Complete separation? Some intermixing? Or full on interweaving to the point in which you cannot even tell the difference?
One site that is of particular interest is Facebook, because it is considered by many to be a tool in which they can use to better organize/chat with/catch up on/collect… real life friends. So even though it is on the internet, this website isn’t considered a real cyber-hang-out place, at least for me, and pardon the oxymoron. Though some people do use facebook as a medium in gathering online friends for a good chat, etc. of which I feel slightly uncomfortable with, as I am one of those people who try to handle these two realms rather completely exclusively.
I don’t care who you are – the internet you and the real you have discrepancies, if only by the discrepancies of real life and the internet itself – how you communicate, the real environment vs. the virtual one, etc. There is a stigma associated with trying to be someone else in today’s culture; “be yourself” is often used as a slogan to promote self-esteem and push an individualistic attitude toward the young generation. This is all well and good, it just need some tweaking when we are in this cyber vs. real context – “be yourself, both of them”. I feel that a great fear in the interweaving of your cyber identity and your real one is that people on both sides of the wall will see the other you and condemn you for it in some way or another.
Online, I’m waste no time in diving into the deeper part of my fandoms whether it would be games or anime – spouting off jargon left and right and expecting people to understand me. The anonymity aspect of the communication also allow me to say things in a more frank manner. As mentioned before, the medium in which we communicate changes our behavior whether we like it or not. I can also communicate like this because no one is expected to listen to me, I owe people nothing. My readers can be the whole world or nobody, I have no way of predicting it. Ultimately, there are just too much discrepancy between cyber communication and its counterpart to name that can change who we are.
Offline, well I’m not going to bore you with it, for it is an online audience that is reading it… that’s another thing, the cyber-side of the people associated with you, whether it would be an audience, or even a friend, is probably not even interested in your adventures associated with your school, your job or your girlfriend, and vice-versa – your real friends and acquantences will probably get tired of you if all you talked about was TOP TEN 20 BEST SNES GAMES or how you love your waifu very much, which could be the bread and butter of some online communities.
Then there is the whole issue with offline meetings… I’ve never done something like this, though I think if I’ve invested enough time and commitment to a particular online community, it would be fun. I am being somewhat hypocritical, but I picture the offline meeting to have the members of the online community as the only participants, with absolutely no exceptions.
I’ll have to admit, I finished half this post like a month ago, and just wrapped it up today, so if there are some issues with how this article flowed, I apologize, but I’m way to lazy to clean it up. I don’t really want to conclude this issue with any lingering wise words, because I really don’t know how. I just thought this to be a very interesting subject and many other people probably had similar thoughts and concerns. This is just my insight on this matter.